– What’s the problem? – Listen. – Me being gay has nothing to do– – Listen.
– …with me being a dad. – It’s not about you being gay– – Then what is it? – It’s not about you being gay. – Then what is it? What is it? – [Narrator] On this episode of “Ghosted: Love Gone Missing”, Travis and Rachel have Russel figure out where things went wrong with his girlfriend, Destiney. – Hi, Rachel and Travis. I really need your help. My name is Russel, and I ghosted my girlfriend, Destiney, two years ago. – [Narrator] That’s right. Russel is the one who did the ghosting. – About a year into our relationship, I started battling with my sexuality, so I realized that I was living a lie. One night at the bar,
I met this guy, Khari. I instantly knew he was gay, but I wasn’t yet comfortable with myself. We hung out a few times. We clicked. I knew that it was wrong, but I started a relationship with Khari while I was with Destiney. (woman making moaning noises) I didn’t know how to tell her. Then she told me she was pregnant, so I ghosted her and I blocked her on everything. – Whoo! Whoo hoo hoo! Wait a minute. – Oh, dude. – I was not ready for that. And he ghosted her when he found out she was pregnant? He said he blocked her on–
– On everything. – [Narrator] So why exactly would Russel ghost his pregnant girlfriend? – In my head, being gay was wrong. And I should have been there for her while she was pregnant, but I was scared. – Lead us up to the day that you decided to ghost her. – Me and Khari was getting real serious. – Okay. – Started calling ourselves boyfriends and being in a relationship with each other. I was spending less time with Destiney and avoiding her. And then Destiney texted me a sonogram picture. She was pregnant. I was ashamed. In my head, being gay was wrong. And I didn’t want my kid to not be proud of who their father is. – Mm-hmm. – And then that’s when I ghosted Destiney. Honestly, guys, I didn’t… I didn’t know what to do. I loved the feeling that
I got being with Khari. He was the first man I’ve ever been with in an encounter. I didn’t want to lose that. – [Narrator] So Russel
wants to make things right with Destiney. But now, he’s been ghosted. – Do you have Destiney’s social media? – Well, I’m blocked, but… – We’re not. – Yeah. – I’ll tell you there are no pictures– – No photos of the baby. But there’s a baby emoji in her bio. Some people don’t like to show their kids on social media. I totally get that. – I tried to hit Destiney up about four months ago. She blocked me. I stopped by the house
that she used to live. Nothing. – What made you want to do that? – I started building up enough courage to want to be a part of my child’s life. I didn’t really have my father in my life. My mom gave me up to the system. I didn’t want my kid growing up like that. – [Narrator] Before
Rachel and Travis dig in, Russel wants to come clean with Khari. – You know how I told you that I was doing this show to help (mumbles) ghost a family member? – Yeah. – I’m honestly doing this show to find Destiney. – Destiney? Your ex-girfriend, Destiney? – Yeah. When I told you that I
broke up with Destiney, I really didn’t break up with Destiney. I just ghosted her. Okay, um… there’s something else I need to tell you. She texted me and told me that she was pregnant. – Pregnant with whose baby? – With mine. I don’t know what to do. I just… I didn’t want to tell you. I didn’t want to make you mad. – How old is this baby? – One a half. Two. – So we’ve been sitting
here this whole time, this whole time, and you’ve been lying to me? – I didn’t know how to tell you, Khari. – You’re a liar. – I thought I was making
the right decision. – Nah. You better be glad I don’t slap the (beep) out of you right now. Lying to me about a kid?
– I didn’t want to lose you. I didn’t you to be upset.
I didn’t want to lose you. – [Narrator] While they
give Russel some space, Travis and Rachel dive into
Destiney’s social media, where they find her sister, who
agrees to meet up with them. – Does she ever tell you why they ended, why he ghosted her, or ever talk about Russel after that? – No, she don’t bring him up. I mean, I don’t know
what the situation was, but it had to be something pretty bad for her to basically flip the roles on what he did to her. She was really devastated. He left her traumatized. – Is Russel the father of the baby? – Well, I feel like that’s
not really my place to say. I feel like you should
talk to her about that. – Janae, I know you don’t want to give us Destiney’s information, which we totally get, but is it okay if you call her, and maybe tell her that you’re with us, and we just have a couple questions? – Okay. Yeah, that’s fine. (phone ringing) Okay, I’m fitting to put you on speaker. – Hey! – Hi, Destiney. – It’s Travis and Rachel, here doing a show with MTV about ghosting. We were contacted by Russel. – [Destiney] Yeah, I know
a lot about ghosting. – Yeah. – We gathered. – [Destiney] I don’t have
anything to say to him. – Look, it’s been very clear to us that what Russel did was wrong. But over the last two years, he’s had a lot of time to think. – [Destiney] I find that very interesting, being that he’s been ghosting me for a long time now. – He’s been desperately trying to get in contact with you to try to make things right. Are you able to meet up today? – [Destiney] I’m about to start my shift, but if you guys want to meet right now? – Perfect. – [Narrator] Now that they’ve
finally gotten in touch with Destiney, it’s time
for Travis and Rachel to get her side of the story. – Nice to meet you. – Nice to meet you. – Hi, Destiney. This is so
(mumbles) to meet with us. Russel reached out to us. He gave us the background and kind of explained to us what happened. We understand what Russel did. – You guys have no idea. – Were you aware that he was trying to get in contact with you over the last four months? – No. – We know that you texted him a picture of the sonogram. And then it was after that that he completely ghosted you. – You know, I’d rather not touch bases on that right now. – But Russel’s the father of your baby, right? – I’m going to go ahead and get out. – Okay. Wait.
Whoa, whoa. – We don’t, we just want to ask you a couple more questions. I know that we’re two strangers, and I know you’re busy. But if you could just agree to meet up with Russel. First, he can explain to you why he ghosted you. Because that’s what happened first. But then you can also explain to him why you’re ghosting him. I
think that it would be great for both of you to just air it out. – You know, I honestly agree. I still have things to get off my chest, and I honestly want to know why he ghosted me. – Okay. – Text me all the
information you guys need, but I actually have to
get going, you guys. – Okay.
– I have to get going. – Thank you so much for
your time, Destiney. We appreciate it. – That was the weirdest interaction I’ve ever had. – Listen, she agreed to meet, though. – [Narrator] Exactly, Rachel. Exactly. So now, after two years, it’s time for Destiney and Russel to come face-to-face. – Destiney, I’m so sorry, for just giving up and leaving you. It’s nothing that you did wrong. A year and a half into our relationship, I started battling with my sexuality. I wasn’t happy waking up every day, not knowing who I was. I still loved you so much. But it was just something
way deeper than that. Well, a couple of months before I just vanished, I was cheating on you. (dramatic music note) You sent me a message telling me that you were pregnant. My heart dropped. I was so ashamed to (sniffle) explain this to you. I was so ashamed to explain to my child that I’m gay. And it was sickening to me, so I just got the idea not to talk to you no more. So when you told me you was pregnant, I felt like, that would be best for my child (sniffle), and best for you, so you wouldn’t be ashamed of me. It took me a lot of time, a lot of self-growth, to be telling you this today. It hurts my heart to
think what I done to you. I took advantage of two innocent people’s feelings to help me figure out myself, and I was wrong. But we have a child now, and I want to be in my child’s life. – So now you want to be a dad, that’s all? – Four months ago, I
tried to reach out to you. I went by the house that you used to live. I made several fake pages to hit you up. I had had enough courage in me to come forth, and you was just ghosting me. I didn’t know what happened to you. I didn’t know what else to do. So I reached out for help. I’m ready to be a dad, Destiney. I’m ready to co-parent with you. I’m ready to move forward in my life. And I’m sorry. I’m so sorry, Destiney. I’m so sorry. I brought the baby a gift. Because I didn’t know if it was a girl or a boy, so… – She rolled her eyes. – I wanted you to take this. – No. I don’t see… Whew. That gift… the gift… …doesn’t matter. (dramatic music note) – Where do you mean? – Russel. – What’s the problem? – Listen. – Me being gay has nothing to do with– – Listen. …me being a dad. – Listen. It’s not about you being gay. – Then what is it? – It’s not about you being gay. – Then what is it? What is it? (box thumps on ground) – The reason that I’ve been ghosting you is because there is no baby. (dramatic music) I had a miscarriage. – No, Destiney, please don’t play with me. (sobs) I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry. – I still have the pictures. The ultrasound. Everything. (sobs) – Oh my god. Please. Okay. I need some air. I need… (sobs)
– Were you afraid to tell us because you felt like he was going to react that way? – I was just so hurt. Having to relive this emotion is still so… It’s like I’m living it all over again. – [Narrator] It’s all out on the table. And it’s time for the moment of truth. Russel and Destiney now have to decide whether they want to make up, or ghost forever. – Russel. Destiney. Do you
guys have any other things that you want to say to one another? – I’m so sorry I couldn’t be here for you. I know you would have been a great mom. Hopefully I can keep you in my life still. – Oh. I definitely wish that this was something that could have been addressed sooner. And I definitely wish that I would have had your support during such a traumatic time. – Please send the final text now. (keys tapping) – Russel, what did you decide? – She was my best friend, and I don’t want to make excuses for my actions. I jus want you to forgive me. I want to make up. – Okay, Destiney, what did you decide? – I decided to ghost. (dark music) – Why did you decide that, Destiney? – Honestly, I’ve been dealing with this for two years. And it’s a lot of built-up anger. And two different paths. I’m starting a new life now, and that’s just what I choose to do. All right, I’m ready to go home. – Okay. – [Narrator] So how do
Russel and Destiney feel now that a few months have passed? – All right, let’s give Russel a call and see how my hometown is doing. (phone ringing) Russel. – Hi, Russel. – Hey, Rachel and Travis. – How you doing, man? – You guys really helped me close a door that I’ve been held open in my life for so long. If it wasn’t for you guys, I wouldn’t be at peace with myself. – That was so emotional, the last time we left you. Have you spoken to Destiney at all? – Actually, Destiney reached out to me. – Oh. – She told me that she forgives me. – Wow. – And we just totally
rekindled our friendship that we lost. – All right, man. Take it easy. – All right. – Bye. – Let’s check in with Destiney. (phone ringing) – Hey, Rachel. Hey– – What’s up, Destiney? – Hi, Destiney. How are you? – A lot has changed since I seen you guys last. I did have time to think about everything. I was upset. But I’ve forgiven him. Right now, we are just slowly working on building our trust and I really do appreciate you guys helping me get that closure that I needed. – We are so happy you found your peace. – Thank you, guys. – Wish you the best. – Bye, Destiney.